Ellis called & my new car

Wonders never cease. Ellis just called and asked to talk to me on Sunday. I wonder if he's been served by the court yet. Or maybe his sister called to tell him she knows he's a father? He sounded pissed, so that's why I'm guessing it's one of the two. He'll come over at 2pm. This should be interesting. I'm just glad Zoe will get to see her dad. This will be his 4th visit.

On Thursday 6/28, Zoe got her first round of immunizations - three shots in the leg. It was soooooo sad. Poor baby, she cried and cried. I was there from 1:45-4pm. I was not a happy camper about having to wait so long. She is 10 pounds now and 23 and 1/4 inches in height. She's still 75% for height, and 25% for weight.

She met baby Jack for the first time after her appointment. Zoe and Jack were really cute together. They would look at each other, around the room, drool - you know, the usual infant behavior. Jack has some great hand/eye coordination and Zoe showed off her strong neck muscles by holding her head up. These babies rock!

On Friday the 29th my Grandma and Great Aunt and parents all pitched in to help me get my fantasy car - a blue Prius. I love this car. It's so wonderful!! It was a really long day, but a fabulous one since I no longer have to climb into the back of my tiny Honda Civic coupe to get her in and out of the baby seat! This is my first new car, ever. It's very exciting.

7.5 weeks old - the faces of Zoe (photos by Karen Andersen)

Father's Day

Since Ellis tells me he doesn't have email, I couldn't sent him a father's day e-card. I had to settle for a myspace message wishing him a happy father's day and reminding him that he's welcome to see Zoe anytime. My last text message to him was on 6/8 and when I never heard back from him I began the court paperwork. I don't want that to prevent him from seeing her if he wants, but he never replied to my last message and we'll see if he responds to the message today. I try to remain positive and hopeful, but I have my doubts. Today, I also invited one of his sisters to meet Zoe anytime (I tried to invite his other sister to do that, but she never read the myspace message I sent her). Zoe will be eight weeks old on Tuesday. How time flies, she's already grown out of so many of her clothes.

WTF?

I've learned that Ellis' parents came from Texas to SF, last week. He never told me. What a perfect opportunity for them to meet their granddaughter, but no, he denied them (and Zoe) the opportunity for all of us to meet. Shame on him. Zoe is now 7 weeks old. I've not heard from Ellis. I wonder how long it will be before I hear from him (if I hear from him). It makes me sad that he doesn't want to see Zoe.

Off to court we go....

On 6/6, Zoe weighted 9 pounds (25% compared to other babies her age) and was 75% in height. She's doing well.

Her dad on the other had, well, it looks like we're going to have to go to court. He's just not able to keep his word to me. I think he is still in denial. It baffles me that Ellis has not told his parents that they are grandparents. It just seems wrong, how can he deny his parents the glory of the Zozos?! That's bad karma at the very least. What are his parents going to do when Marilyn's mom (Gaga) hunts them down when she goes back to Texas and informs them of the good news? They might just have a heart attack. "You don't understand, they would not approve of the situatuation," Ellis told me. The "situation"? He can't even say her name. He's never said her name. I don't approve of that situatuion! I even offered to go to Texas and bring Zoe to meet her other grandparents. He said nothing (shocking), which in his world, means no.

She is almost 7 weeks old and he still has not paid a dime of child support. The child support counselor asked if he's ever given her toys, or clothes, or contributed in any way. I laughed, "No, this is the person who begged me to get an abortion when I told him he may or may not be the father and when I told him he was the father, told me this was going to ruin his life. He couldn't even bother to call me on Mother's Day." She was not pleased with his news. She shook her head and was visablily discouraged.

I even invited him to move back in (since finding a roommate is even more difficult with a newborn, and a father should live with his child in the ideal world), but he said no to that as well. He did tell me he was "considering" it last time we spoke. That almost gave me a heart attack. When it comes down to it though, I can't seem him moving back in. I simply don't have the energy to try to make him care, anymore. If/when he's ready to step up as a father, he can let me know. It's sad and dissapointing, but I now accept the reality of the "situatuion." We're doing fine, money is tight, but we'll manage until the court determines how much he owes in child support. This photo of her was taken when she was 6 weeks old.