She started to crawl, say "da da" and she saw him on Monday night

This has been a big few days for Zoe. On Saturday evening at Liz and Terry's holiday party, Lisa said, "Look at her go" and she was crawling! Since that time she's resorted to the combat crawl, but I've seen her do some normal crawling moves as well. Her cousin, Lorenzo was born at 9:35pm on Saturday and we met him on Sunday. I wish I'd been there when he was born like I'd been there when Matteo was born. He's adorable, of course and Zoe kept wanting to touch him. She was very curious about him and she looked huge next to his 7 pound, 12 ounce little body.

I called Ellis because I know he'll never call. I asked him to go to couples therapy for non-couples so that we could learn to communicate better. He refused. "I don't want any third parties involved, I only want to deal with you."

"You hired a lawyer Ellis, so clearly, that is not true." I asked him to please just consider it and it and he refused. Irritating. For some insane reason (maybe because he drives 5 miles an hour), he thinks it takes an hour to get to my house. I assured him it only takes 20-30 minutes, depending on traffic. I was tired of arguing with him on the phone. He's a mute most of the time, so it's just mostly me waiting for the next ridiculous thing to come out of his mouth, so I said I'd drive over to see him. He held Zoe why I ate dinner. After dinner, I suggested we go talk at his house, but he refused. His explanation: "I need to be able to trust you." I said, "Your roommate already knows about Zoe...." That didn't matter, he wouldn't budge. I asked him to hold Zoe while I went to the ATM. When I got back, Zoe was screaming her head off. "Why is she crying like this? Did you try to comfort her? Did you sing to her?" He didn't answer. Of course, but he looked hurt. Apparently, he did sing to her. He was embarrassed to tell me what song, but finally he told me: Sinead O'Connor, Nothing Compares to You.

After a while of being really uncomfortable in the car, I asked again if we could visit in his living room. Still no. We're supposed to visit in the car? Seriously? So insulting! He's going to visit his family for Christmas, and he still has not told him mom about Zoe. Pathetic.

I was over it and Zoe was tired, so we left. He thanked me for coming. I could see he was all torn up. I try to remind myself that I'm dealing with a kid in an adult body, so on my way home I called him to say goodnight and said we could try to visit when he gets back from the holidays.

Zoe's been babbling a lot. Ellis was amazed. He said, "Look she's talking!" - she says "da da" a lot because babies can say that easily. I'm trying to teach her how to say "ma ma" but I know it will probably be a while.