Friday, July 6, 2007

My visit with Ellis / my thyroid scan

On Sunday, July 1st, Ellis arrived at 2pm and left at 5pm. As usual, he was generally mute. I did learn the following: he wants to try to be friends. I told him it would be nice if made a child support payment, if that was the case. He didn't. I also asked him if he would untangle two mobiles that got twisted together when I washed them. He didn't. I said, "I heard your parents were in town." He replied in an irritated voice, "No - it was my sisters." Great. "Ok - did you tell them they have a niece?" He said they already knew. I asked him to elaborate, but he wouldn't. He's talked to his dad about it, but his mom doesn't know. I asked him, "How is it possible that your dad and your sisters know, and you mom doesn't know? How can you all keep the fact that she is a grandmother, from her?!" His reply was smug, "They respect my wishes." I just don't understand him.

He wanted to come over on Monday, but I had plans. So he wanted to come over on Tuesday, but I had plans. I told him maybe I could see him after. We talked on Tuesday and it was frustrating for me, as always. Finally, we talked on Wednesday and after yet another round about conversation, I told him when he's ready to write a check to me, I'll be happy to see him. Until that time, if he'd like to see his daughter, my mom, will be happy to be there instead of me.

On Thursday the 5th I went to the Dr. and got an ultrasound on my thyroid. Mom had papillary/follicular thyroid cancer when she was 19. It's the most common type (about 78%) and the most treatable. They caught hers very early. Her brother, my uncle Michael, died of Thyroid cancer. He had the same kind, and also anaplastic, the most rare (about1%) and always fatal type. The stupid doctor misdiagnosed him early on and by the time they caught it, it was too late. He died two weeks later after it had spread to his brain, and all over his body. Recently, I found a lump on my neck. Sometimes this happens and I had an uptake and scan after he died. It was clear, but they told me I have to continually monitor it. The technician told me today she saw two two small goiters. The Dr. will review everything and let me know if it's nothing to worry about, or if I should have a biopsy. I was really worried when I first found the lump, but now I'm not worried.

Zoe laughs sometimes now, it's the cutest thing ever! This photo of her was taken when she was 9.5 weeks old. Now she's 2.5 months old.

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