Ellis meets his daughter / Zoe at one month

On May 14th, I called Ellis and said I needed to speak with him about Zoe. I wanted to talk in person, but he wanted to talk on the phone. He told me his email I had doesn't work anymore, so I suggested he make a new one: zoesdaddy@gmail.com, his response to that was just silence. I asked him to decide if he wanted the court paternity test, or to pay for the private test (the one that David did). He said he'd call me on Tuesday with his answer. Once the test says he is the dad, he has to sign a declaration of paternity, which is a legal document.

Tuesday came and was about to end and I didn't hear anything. It really pisses me off when people say they are going to do something and they don't. So, I called him at 11:45pm, thinking I'd get his voicemail, but he answered the phone. I said, "You told me you were going to call me with your decision today...."

Ellis: "I haven't made up my mind yet."

"Ok, it would have been nice if you called me to let me know."

"I didn't say I'd call on Tuesday." That really pissed me off!

"Ok - now you want to lie to me?! How can I trust you if you can't keep your word about something simple like this?" " During our brief time dating, I caught him in some lies and that was very upsetting to me.

We ended up yelling at each other and I said he should really meet his daughter and he had the balls to say, "It's too soon..."

"Ellis, she's 3 weeks old! Actually, it's too late," and I hung up. I figured I'd just have to go to court, but on Thursday, at 2:15am I thought I'd give him one more chance. I sent him a text message saying: Did you decide? I need your answer by 11am. No answer means you want to go to court. If you don't want to go to court, you need to meet her on Saturday.

To my shock, he wrote back and suggested we meet on Thursday night. I was pleased. So, around 8:30pm on Thursday, May 17th, Ellis came over to meet his daughter. I was holding her (as I pretty much always am, unless somebody else is holding her, or I'm in the shower) and he gave me a hug. He smiled and I think was kind of in shock. She looks more like him everyday, it seems to me. When she was a couple of days old, I thought she had his hands, but I was totally in denial about it since I was still convinced David was her dad.

After some small talk and catching up (we hadn't seen each other in a long time), I asked him how he was and what he thought of her, and he shed some tears. It was sweet.

I got up to use the bathroom a few times and asked him hold her. He was nervous and she cried (she's good at that) but when I'd get back, she'd really look at him and make cute cooing sounds and he'd laugh when she made funny faces, it was great.

He said he wanted to do the private DNA test and I said I'd make an apt. for him on Monday morning. There is an on-line child support calculator: http://www.childsup.ca.gov/calculator and so we have to do that next. He left at 2am. It was a very good start.

He did the test on the 21st (we already know he's the dad, but this is just a formality and it's a legal test that will stand up in court) and the results come back around June 1st. Good times.

Photos: me and Zoe at 1 month, Ellis, her dad